Change doesn’t really mean the ‘ending’ of something. It simply means turning one thing into another. And change doesn’t happen in a bubble, but some changes are for better – you’ll never know until long after!
Change is what keeps life moving
Everything around us changes. Seasons change, plants and animals, people change. Change doesn’t always mean something physical is changing, but often changing from within. It takes 9 months for the embryo to go from a dot to a full size baby, it takes three months for the leaves to fall off the trees completely, it takes a few minutes for the water to boil – but the ‘comfort zone’ seems to last forever. Quite annoying, isn’t it?
Change means evolving
The first thing you need to do is understand the notion of change. Change means evolving. You have to know what you really want for yourself and if you’re willing to go through the process of change. People would often have the will to think about change but lack the motivation to execute it all the way. If you want to lose weight, you usually do research about the best exercises and diets, consult a professional, walk or jog etc. If you want to quit smoking, you start by reading online about how others have overcome smoking, try patches etc. It’s not a bad start, but it’s not the best one.
Start from the core of the problem and the thing you want to change. Ask yourself why do really need that change and what is going to for you. You need to convince yourself first that change is what you really need to make your life better.
And change doesn’t happen in a bubble
For some people, change is a scary thing. It means that they have to risk everything they do or have for something unknown. Risky and rewarding in the same time. The fear of unknown is so powerful! Some people are caught up with miserable lives because of that fear, they spend all of their precious time wasting it on things they don’t want. The thought of going through a long process of new situations, challenges and obstacles is scaring them. Change is always great, but it’s long and you can see it coming. Although you may not notice it, change comes in step-by-step process.
Once you’ve decided to go for it, really think about the steps you’re going to take. Taking small steps is crucial during this process. Otherwise, you can hit rock bottom by going too fast. Great thing need time, so does change. Another really important thing is to be truly honest with yourself. Is the thing you want to change, the right thing? I’ve read about stories about people with distorted images of themselves. A think girl being bullied for being skinny tries to overeat herself because she can gain weight overnight. Or a curvy girl bullied for her weight tries to throw up to lose weight ends up with bulimia. Something we are so critical with ourselves, we forget to look our real values. Talk to your friends and family to see is that change what you really need to progress in life.
Find the right role model
Finding the right model is crucial. The person you’ve looked up to all this time has gone what you need to go through. Find out everything they did to get to that place you want to be. Whether it’s a celebrity, family member, friend, teacher, it doesn’t matter. Try talking to them and consulting with them about what your next steps are going to be, ask them to be supportive and let them tell you what you’re going to expect on that journey. Holding on to their words along the process is the best tool to make you keep going in those moments when you think you’re going to give up.
See the big picture
Along the way, try to look at the big picture. Whether it’s exercising, fights with your partner, giving up smoking etc. try looking at the bigger picture or in other words, your main goal. It’s going to get tough along the way for sure. You may not see the light at the end of the tunnel just yet, but you’re always one step closer to your goal even with the smallest change.
Just stop and try to see how far you’ve come. Seeing how far along you’ve gone with this process, you will be motivated to go even further along the line. Nothing can really stop you. You can achieve anything you set your mind to. Imagine you’ve spent 6 months in training relentlessly, you’ve lost all of that weight and you start to miss that process of change. Time flew while you were reaching your goals, because you were too focused to think about time.
You can try and change your goals and strategies along the way. That helps you to have even better results. If you tried one way, you can switch to something completely different of what you were doing. For instance, instead of studying for 10 hours with breaks, try studying intensely for 3 hours straight. You can adjust the process of change to work for you, not the other way round.
Change doesn’t happen in a bubble, but it sure makes time fly when you are in the process of changing yourself. The process makes you revaluate yourself, helps you find who you really are and builds self-confidence. So, don’t be afraid of anything, especially change. Change and time means nothing when you’ve gone all the way and you see yourself in the mirror and see the person you thought you’d never become. You idol is staring right at you in that mirror.