Everybody has missed a bus or a metro at least once. When you were very pressed and you really had to get somewhere at a precise moment. What an awful moment! How irritating or frustrating it was! However, missing the bus can help you in some ways. And you can easily rewire the way you react and think about.
Let’s remember a situation: at home, you prepare yourself (and your family, maybe) to go, then something happens, there is a delay in your normal rhythm or schedule. When you finally arrive into the bus/metro station, your bus is leaving. And you know there will be minutes until the next one arrives. You remember such a day, don’t you?
That is precisely the most important moment of all this kind of event. A turning-point that really makes your day. So powerful! So difficult to improve – but so rewarding if you make it! Everybody knows how to miss a bus, but few people turn it into something good. Yes, it is possible to take advantage from this. Do you want to know how?
Missing the bus is not a strange event. It might happen to anyone at a certain moment. And sometimes, at the worst moment! I don’t even try to estimate how many times it happens to me, as I go by bus every day. Many buses, many days, many destinations. At a certain moment in my past, I’ve noticed a pattern – missing a bus was followed by two and only two attitudes.
Attitude 1 – expensive negative thoughts
‘What a pain in the ….. ! (A lot of words in here, depending on your day). I really have to get there on time! How did this happen? If only I/you/she/he/we/they did….! I will be late for sure. Bad things will surely happen (long list again). These buses are awful, no schedule, no timing! The person I have to meet will say/go/do….. Terrible.’
All of these are said in your mind while walking nervously along the platform, agitating yourself by thinking like that over and over again. Your eyes are rolling, your front is frowning, and you’re glumly murmuring something. A child can express his/her discontent using the entire body – adults don’t allow themselves to do that. However, be sure that your body is expressing your feelings quite well and there is no doubt regarding your feelings for anyone watching. Like ‘ready-to-do-something’ or ‘I-lost-everything’ look – they are expressive enough. And expensive sometimes.
One can start a quarrel with a ‘third person’, only because he is so very nervous. I did it once, I regretted it after my first sentence, but it was too late to forget about it. Some other time, I didn’t notice on time a car passing by, and a driver I knew. Just imagine the situation: You’re late and a car driven by a friend is going near you, and you notice it only when it’s too late for you. Your brain is busy complaining and your eyes don’t really see, as they are contemplating the future disaster caused by your retard.
I thought that the lesson to be learned was: Always have some money for a necessary cab. It worked, until one day. A cab took me to my destination and I arrived there in the same moment as a bus – the one I would catch if there was no taxi for me! Tough, isn’t it? I did it and I didn’t forget it.
Then you finally arrive at your destination. You are nervous, stressed, irritated, panicked, or even ready to blow-up. Having such an attitude, the results are inevitable zero or negative. You irritate other people, you can’t focus on your goal. At an interview for a job, for example, you fail. The same on a date. One needs no further details to be convinced about it. Your day is getting worse, and bad things leads to another bad thing. Your bad day to another ones. And it all started by missing the bus.
Attitude 2 – there is something good in every situation
Try these: I simply don’t get it now, but I surely will. I’ve got this problem now to stop me here and so I avoid something bad. I trust in something bigger than me. God knows better than me.
The worst thing is the fact that all that desperation was sometimes useless or superficial. And unproductive every time. You finally arrived at your destination and the world hadn’t crashed because of you being late. The meeting hadn’t started yet, the person wasn’t nervous and so on. An apparent obstacle has also a gift included. This is something good for you even in this situation. Maybe it makes you avoid something worse.
A friend of mine once arrived later only to find out that there was a power failure in that block. So she had been stuck in the bus station, waiting for a bus, instead of being stuck in a lift, waiting for the energy to be reconnected, or a service-guy to rescue her! It makes you thinking.
This kind of attitude really helps you to deal with bad situation. It makes your life easier and relieve your stress. The best part? You can mastered it after some practice. Keep trying. It becomes easier and easier after any trying.